LOVE WITHOUT
CONDITIONS
The Online Course
Updated with New Text by the Author
Copyrights 1994 and 2026 by Paul Ferrini
All Rights Reserved
Preface
At the urging of Luanne Allgood, one of the certified teachers of my work, I have revisited Love Without Conditions, a book I wrote in 1993, some 33 years ago.
At the time, I asked Jesus for this book and with his help I was able to bring the text through. Many people around the world have been touched by the message.
Love without Conditions is not a book that you read once and put aside. It is a doorway to Christ consciousness, which you enter many times. Each time that you enter, you gain greater insight and are able to internalize the teaching at a deeper level.
Luanne’s request was to take the material in this book and turn it into a teachable course.
When she first proposed the idea, I was skeptical. The book came from a deep communion with the teachings of Christ and it unfolded organically and intuitively. Converting this text to a teachable course could not be done from the outside in. It could only be done from the inside out.
That meant rejoining with the consciousness that gave birth to the book and allowing it to be refined and expanded into the consciousness of today. As a result, some things that were fuzzy or confusing before were brought into sharp focus. Unnecessary words were deleted and new text was bought through.
In the process, a shorter, tighter and more powerful book was born. Journaling questions were added to help you personalize the teachings and practices.
This book is designed as both a self-study guide and as a course that you can experience with others. While self-study and journaling lead to integration in the psyche, experiencing this course with others brings insights that cannot happen when working alone.
To get the most out of this material, please do both. Work on your own and study with others. Learn it and teach it. Meditate on it and share your experience with others.
Each time you open the door, you will go deeper into the sanctuary. That is how the word becomes flesh. That is how the truth is anchored in your heart and mind.
I wish you many blessings.
Paul Ferrini July, 2026
UNIT 1
Your Relationship
with Me
Origins
This book does not come from some “entity” or personality apart from the mind of the listener. Indeed, this book is the result of one listener’s joining with the Christ Mind, of which he and you are essential parts.
Each of us has a tiny spark of light that illuminates the darkness of our unconsciousness. This is the divine spark of awareness which keeps our connection with God alive and also connects us to the divine teacher in our tradition.
Because the light is within us, it ot refuse to shine when we call upon it.
Separation Vs. Equality
Do not make the mistake of thinking that any reflection of the Christ Mind seeks anything other than the establishment of the kingdom of love in our hearts and minds.
The genuine goal of all genuine spiritual teachings is to overcome separation.
Like all religions that profess a higher authority, Christianity can perpetuate the myth of separation. It can divide the Christian from the Jew, or the Muslim, or the Buddhist.
One who follows my teaching does not advocate any kind of separation. S/He practices love and forgiveness for all beings, including him or herself.
A true follower of my teaching knows that God has many ways of bringing us home and never doubts the outcome.
My message is a simple one: Beliefs separate. Loving thoughts unite. If you want to follow my teaching, bless your brother, even though you don’t agree with him.
Journaling Questions
Do you accept me as a teacher of love and forgiveness or do you make me special and put me up on a pedestal?
Do you believe I am the only Son of God and that I stand above and beyond you? If so, how can you have a direct relationship with me?
Communion with the Christ
t me begin by saying that I speak through you only to the extent that you are willing to relinquish control. In that sense, you are not special. I can speak through anyone who has the willingness to listen.
The desire to communicate with me is essential to opening the door to my presence. I will not force myself upon anyone. The relationship with me is voluntary and must be initiated by each person when he is ready.
I am as close to you as you would have me be. I am already a thought within your mind. And everything that I am proceeds from that thought, just as everything which is not me proceeds from a different thought. This you must learn through experience.
Being an Instrument
Some people claim that I speak through them, yet they are listening to a different voice. My voice never condemns or makes fearful. My intention is to bless everyone.
I teach the forgiveness of sins. I teach that sin itself is not real. It seems to be real only because you believe that you can be injured.
The body is born and dies, but your true self is not born, nor does it die.
Every thought that limits you is a body that will begin and end. There are dense bodies and light bodies, but all have a beginning or end. All are subject to some form of self-conscription.
I am a thought without limitation, for I am ever expanding into the formlessness of God. There is no form that can contain me. I have joined with God in perfect forgiveness.
I am free of guilt. I am free of grievances. I do not believe that I can be wronged, nor do I believe that I have the power to wrong another. For I know without a doubt that every being has equality in God.
I know that it is hard for you to believe this, for so much that you see in your world suggests inequity. But these inequities are of your own making. They are an untruth that you sustain. You need sustain it no longer.
Unless you reject what is not true, how can the kingdom of God be experienced on earth?
Mastery of Your Thoughts
Mastery of your thoughts is essential for it is in your thoughts that you choose to walk with me or to walk away from me.
Unhelpful thoughts must be eliminated. That is the essence of mind training. Only thoughts that bless and recall us to truth shall be retained.
A single false idea can bring the mind that thinks it to despair. But a single true thought restores the kingdom. Therefore, choose your thoughts wisely.
Asking for my Help
If you are uncertain what to think, bring your dilemma to me. Surrendering to me is unlike any act of surrender you can know in the world. For the world would use your surrender harshly to control you, but I would use it gently to release you from falsehood and give you back your true self.
Those who do my work empower you to love and affirm yourself as you are right now. Those who work against me find many faults with you, which they would fix. They would make you dependent on them for your salvation.
Do not accept such lies. Learn to discriminate. No one on earth has a better answer for you than the one you will find through trust in yourself and in me.
Journaling Questions
Is it important for you to develop a relationship with me?
Are you willing to surrender unhelpful thoughts and limiting beliefs and connect to love in your heart?
Do you understand that our communication happens in a state of consciousness that is free of judgment?
UNIT 2
Taking Others off
the Hook
Your Responsibility
Do not concern yourself with what others do or leave undone. It is not your responsibility to evaluate their thoughts or their actions. Simply be responsible for how you think and act. For if you think and act with God you will influence others without saying a single word.
Charity is found only in self-responsibility. Do the very best that you can do for yourself and others and leave the rest for God to do.
You are not responsible fr the choices that others make, nor are they responsible for yours. However, you can and must learn from one another, for what you choose is not that different from the choice your brother makes. You make many of the same mistakes and you are all called to learn from your errors.
Mistakes are opportunities for learning. To condemn your brother for making mistakes is to pretend to be mistake free, which you are not.
You can release your brother from the judgment you would make of him within your own mind. To release him is to love him, for it places him where love alone lies, beyond judgment of any kind.
The Core Issue
There is no one else who is as hard on you as you are. You suffer from a basic sense of inadequacy and unworthiness. You feel that you have made terrible mistakes which will sooner or later be punished by humans in authority or by some abstract spiritual authority like God, or karmic law.
These unresolved issues of self-worth are the conditions of your embodiment. In other words, you are here to work them out.
You selected your parents to exacerbate your guilt so that you could become conscious of it. Thus, blaming them for your problems will not help you remove the conditions you have mutually placed on love. The only way out is through your expanding awareness of your own guilt and fear-based beliefs and patterns of interaction.
Seeking outside yourself for Love
Seeking someone special to provide the love your parents weren’t able to provide will not help. It just raises the temperature in the pressure cooker. Don’t be surprised if the mate you choose is the perfect embodiment of the parent with whom you most need to heal.
Sooner or later, you must come face to face with your own wounds. Parents, spouses and children are here to help you see your own need for healing, and you are performing the same function in their lives.
Looking for unconditional love in a world of conditions must inevitably fail. Since all your brothers and sisters are acting out of shame-based patterns, they cannot offer you the love that you deserve, nor can you offer it to them. The best that you can do is raise each other’s awareness of the love that is necessary and begin taking responsibility for giving it to yourself.
If you do not take responsibility for bringing love to your own wounds, you will not move out of the vicious cycle of shame and blame. Your feelings of rage, hurt and betrayal, all of which seem justified, will just fuel the fire of interpersonal conflict and continue to reinforce your unconscious belief that you are unlovable and incapable of loving.
Journaling Questions
Do you understand that you are the bringer of love to your own experience and that no one else can give you the unconditional love that you need?
Are you ready to stop seeking love outside yourself and to begin bringing love to the child within who feels unloved and unlovable?
Undoing Self Hatred
Until you see your unloving relationship with yourself, you will be using every brother or sister in your experience as a mirror to show you what you believe about yourself. While there is nothing wrong with this practice, it is not the shortest or the easiest way home, since there is always the tendency to think that what you see is somebody else’s lesson.
If you want to step outside the reactive cycle of shame and blame, you must stop the game of projection. This game hides your unconscious fear and shame behind a facade of blame and conditional morality.
It is ironic, indeed, but at the very instant at which you are proclaiming your innocence at your brother’s expense, you are also reinforcing your own feelings of guilt and inferiority.
There is no way out of the circle of blame but to stop blaming.
Falsehood and Correction
To oppose, seek to overpower, or to argue with a false idea is to strengthen it. That is the way of violence. My way, on the other hand, is nonviolent. It demonstrates the answer in its approach to the problem. It brings love, not attack, to the ones in pain. Its means are consistent with its ends.
To make wrong is to teach guilt and perpetuate the belief that pain and suffering are necessary. To make right is to teach love and demonstrate its power to overcome all suffering. To put it simply, you are never right to make wrong, or wrong to make right.
You cannot love in an unloving way. You can’t be right and attack what’s wrong. Error must be undone. And since the root of all error is fear and shame, only the undoing of fear and shame will bring correction.
Journaling Questions
Are you aware that you have an antagonistic relationship with yourself and that this is source of your suffering?
Can you see how unhealthy relationships with others simply mirror back to you your unhealthy relationship with yourself?
Practice
The very word practice invites misunderstanding. What would you practice except that which you already know? And what do you know except guilt, fear and attack?
Certainly you do not want to continue to practice the very beliefs and reactions which lead to your suffering!So what shall you practice? Perhaps you could begin by simply practicing awareness. Practice being aware of your guilt, your fear and your attack. Do not disguise them, deny them, or project them onto other people. Merely look at these phenomena as they arise within your consciousness.
When you feel angry or depressed, simply ask, “Why am I angry? Why am I feeling the need to defend myself? What am I afraid of? Continue to ask these questions until you begin to see the source of your anger and fear.
Begin by bringing an awareness to your own thoughts. As you do this you will find that your shame and unworthiness is the root of your suffering. You will also understand that self-forgiveness is necessary. Without self-forgiveness, there is no release from guilt.
Understand that the drama of redemption is happening only in your own mind. In your mind, you establish your innocence or guilt. It does not matter how many people abused you. Blaming them will not help you. You are the judge who pronounces sentence. And so long as you are blaming someone else for your problems, you are refusing to offer forgiveness to yourself.
Judge and jury live within your own thoughts. You established your guilt and now you must dissolve it. Until you undo your guilt, you cannot find your innocence. That is what the forgiveness process is all about.
Forgiving others is just the first step. It helps you to undo the projection and take responsibility for your own healing. But the deeper work has to do with forgiving yourself.
No one can escape this work. It is an essential part of the curriculum of awakening. The sooner you realize it, the easier it will be for you.
Journaling Questions
What are you angry or upset about? What or whom are you afraid of? Whom do you blame for your suffering?
In what way do you feel less than or unworthy, putting yourself down and raising others up un on a pedestal?
In what ways do you feel superior to others and treat other people harshly and without compassion?